Friday, February 19
Are YOU a Hyper Parent?
If so, then perhaps you need to check out this documentary: http://www.cbc.ca/documentaries/doczone/2010/hyperparents/index.html
Follow the link to a short article, accompanied by a 3-minute trailer and a complete 43-minute video: "Hyper Parents & Coddled Kids".
As an educator, I have certainly met some of these "hyper parents", but I can't say I agree with the article's statement: "Ask any teacher and they will tell you that the toughest aspect of their job is dealing with overbearing parents who fiercely intervene at the first sign of trouble." I have several pet peeves that would come in ahead of this one, and quite frankly, the practically non-existent parents concern me more than the overbearing ones.
With my "teacher" hat off, and "mommy" hat on, I am trying my best not to morph into this caricature of a mother, but I have to admit, sometimes it's hard. It's even trickier when my daughter will be starting Junior Kindergarten at the school where I teach, and I have to keep reminding myself that no one will be (or should be) judging me on how well-behaved or academically advanced my child may or not be. That issue is all about me though, not about concern for my daughter's success. Even I know that the daydreaming glue-eaters may very well have the brightest futures ahead of them.
It's funny, though, that sometimes I feel like I am a bad mommy because my kids' birthday parties thus far have been very simple compared to others I've seen -- certainly not the $4000 affair shown in the documentary -- the mother argued that reaching one's first birthday is "quite an achievement". Hmm.
By the way, I may appear to be a hyper-parent because I forced my daughters to watch Baby Einstein videos, but honestly, it was because I was using the TV as a babysitter, not to increase their IQ's! (Which would you judge me for more??)
So, what do you think? Are you guilty of a bit of hyper-parenting? Have you seen any extreme examples in your own life? Or do you agree with those who think that this style of parenting is on the decline, due to the recession and a change in values over the past number of years? Leave a comment and let me know!